It may not sound fun, romantic, or exciting, but I’ve got to admit that I really look forward to our monthly budget planning meeting. We treat it like a date! The kids are in bed and we’re together focused on the same thing. We’re on the same team working to achieve our goals. Seeing our progress, reaffirming our goals, and making sure we’re on the same page is motivating and fun!`
Before I lay out the way we do our monthly budgeting meetings, I want to be clear that there is no one right way to do your budget planning meetings. The important part is that you are doing it!
We have ours monthly, but you might want to do them more often (I think they should be at least monthly.) You are checking in and holding yourself accountable. You’re tweaking, making improvements, and celebrating progress. The details and agenda will vary from couple to couple.
Reconcile (10 minutes – many minutes)
Before we assess our progress on our goals, we have to make sure all of our numbers are right. We want to make sure that the amounts in our bank accounts (transactions and totals) perfectly mirror the transactions we’ve logged in YNAB throughout the month. Reconciling with two people is pretty convenient (though it’s totally doable on your own too).
I’m usually at the desktop computer with YNAB open and Mike is on his laptop with each of our accounts open. We go through our checking account, and each of our credit cards with Mike reading off all the transactions and me marking them as cleared in YNAB. Then we compare our totals. It’s really fun when the numbers match up just right and we can reconcile immediately. Sometimes we’ll find that we forgot to enter a transaction or there’s one that’s entered twice, or we transposed some numbers or something and it requires a little detective work before the account reconciles. It’s probably nerdy to admit that it’s fun either way, so I won’t.
Reconciling can be as quick as five minutes if we faithfully entered all our transactions during the month. If we got behind or made a mistake, (and there’s usually at least one) it will take longer. If you’ve failed to log any transactions during the month, this is when you pay the price. Next month you’ll have good motivation to do better.
Pay Bills (5 minutes)
While Mike is in each of our credit card accounts, he pays the bill. One of my favorite parts of using YNAB is that we don’t have to worry if there is enough money in the checking account to cover the credit card bills because when we “spent” the money from our categories it stayed in the bank just waiting for the bill to come.
Two of our credit cards earn points that we redeem for “cash” or statement credits. They don’t have a certain threshold that has to be reached in order to use them, so we apply them each month before paying the card. Since we have all the money on hand to pay our credit cards each month, the cash back goes straight to our debt payment! For those curious how we work that in YNAB, we enter the cash back as income for that month (instead of the next month, which we do for all of our other income), then it’s funneled into our “end of the month payment” category.
For those who are new to YNAB, remember to record your money transfers (e.g. paying your credit card bill from your checking account) so that YNAB shows the money leaving your checking account (outflow) and entering your credit card account (inflow). When you make that single transfer it will show up both under your checking account and your credit card.
Re-Distribute (5 minutes)
After we make sure our accounts match YNAB and pay our bills, we go through and move any extra money from all the categories that aren’t accumulating money for future expenses to our “end of the month debt payment” category. The final result of that is that we’ve given a job to every dollar in our budget for the month. Nothing is floating around–it’s all directed at the goals we decided on.
Make Our End-of-Month Debt Payment (2 minutes)
When everything is re-distributed we pay the remaining lump toward our debt (our end-of-the-month debt payment)! It might be big or small, depending on how the month went, but it’s always worth celebrating!
Budget and Goals for Next Month (10 minutes)
Since we are living on last month’s income, we can now budget (allocate money to our budget categories) for the entire next month. If you aren’t to that point yet, you’ll just fund your categories each time you get paid.
It’s absolutely essential to actually think about our budget for the next month. We talk about what non-standard expenses we might have over the next month. Most of our budget categories start with the same amount each month, but there are always a few that we know will be different from the month before.
Maybe we know we’re going to have to replace tires on a car and we need to adjust our “car maintenance” category so there will be enough there. Or maybe we know that one of the kids will be starting a sport at school and we need to increase our “kid’s activities” category. Or we could be planning a trip and need to increase the amount in our “fuel” category. If we know our expenses in a category will be different from usual, we go ahead and adjust the amount budgeted to that category. That flexibility keeps our budget in line with our reality. Remember, when we budget, we’re directing our money toward our prioritized expenses and our financial goals. Our budget doesn’t tell us what to do–it’s how we tell our money what we want it to do for us that month.
Make Our Beginning-of-Month Debt Payment (2 minutes)
When we have set the estimated total for each of our budget categories, we’ll usually have some amount left over still unbudgeted. We decide how much of that should go to our beginning-of-the-month debt payment, and pay it right then. We usually make it a pretty good chunk of what we have remaining unbudgeted. We tentatively leave the rest in our end-of-the-month debt payment category, which gives us some flexibility for unexpected expenses.
Celebrate! (5-10 minutes)
We review our goals, have a celebratory treat, and get pumped to spend as little as possible so that we can put more toward our debt at the end of the month!
A Few Key Points to Remember
- Couples, remember that you’re on the same team! Work together. Build each other up. Don’t point fingers of blame. Sometimes one or both of you will have fallen off the wagon. It happens. It’s not the end of the world. Just pick each other up and keep moving forward from where you are now.
- Make it fun! Seeing your progress and working to stay on track is a positive thing. And if just having your budgeting meeting isn’t exciting enough, pull out a carton of ice cream and two spoons. That always works for us!
- Focus on your progress! In order for budgeting meetings to be sustainable, they need to be positive. Of course you will see areas that need improvement, but don’t dwell on your shortcomings. You’ve made actual, real progress to improve your financial situation this month! Take a few minutes and savor the feeling.
- Get excited about your goals! Dream together about how awesome it will be when you’ve completed your goals. I always come away from our monthly meetings with renewed hope and motivation.
Challenge—Day 26
Set a date, time, and place for your next budget meeting. Let your spouse know that there will be refreshments served, so it’s an event he or she won’t want to miss! If you aren’t meeting with a spouse or partner, this is a great way to check in with your accountability buddy and celebrate together.
- Do you have regular (monthly, weekly) budgeting meetings? Do you dread them or look forward to them?
Becca says
I know this won’t go over well here; but I don’t think budgeting is necessarily important. My husband and I have never budgeted and have never made an above-average income; but we’ve always lived within our means, we’ve always been good with saving, and we are doing pretty well. Would we be doing better if we budgeted? Perhaps. But what good would that do us? We spend very little because we want very little. Budgeting isn’t going to change that. Things cost what they cost. The secret is in not wanting it in the first place.
Lisa says
I really really believe in the importance of planning meetings. Now just to get my husband on board… the ice cream will probably do the trick.
Also, I get way to emotional and overwhelmed with our student loans. I need to see the small payments as small steps forward.
Stephanie says
Ice cream makes everything better in my opinion!
Definitely focus on all the little victories instead of on the big picture if it’s overwhleming!
susan says
I’ve been married for over 10 years and the hubs and I never really talked about finances. We’ve slowly gone through around $30k in savings in that time and now we are strictly living paycheck to paycheck. I thank God for finally hitting rock bottom. You know why? Because my husband and I are finally speaking to each other about our money. It was such a weight on my shoulders to be the only one paying the bills and watching our accounts shrink. Now, even though we have to watch our spending like crazy, I feel like we’re tackling problems as a team AND we can now learn how to live within our means.
Stephanie says
That is wonderful Susan! I’m glad that things are looking up for you and that you can see the blessing in hitting rock bottom. I love that you’re talking about money now and tackling problems as a team! What a strength to your marriage!
C@thesingledollar says
I just have budget meetings with myself 🙂 I do a formal check-in at the end of the month to make sure everything matches up and that I have a grasp on what’s coming up. I think this is one thing that’s easier as a single person because there’s nobody else who might be out somewhere spending from a common account without entering the transaction into YNAB. (I have several couple friends where one person is *much* more dedicated to account-keeping than the other.)
Stephanie says
I can definitely see how there would be some benefits to budgeting for single people! 🙂
Kellie says
My husband and I kind of flunked in the “sticking with the budget” portion of FPU. Not that it is really an excuse, but we had so many unknowns when we took the class that we were more or less in survival mode. Now that our expenses are a little more consistent, I am looking forward to creating a budget and sticking with it with the helpful tools we have discovered during our first 6 months of marriage!
Mandy says
Good for you! We were in a similar situation. We couldn’t even afford the kit for the fpu class. Our church donated it to us. We weren’t able to even catch up on our bills for a while after the class. But once we got on track, we have been unstoppable! Good luck!
Kellie says
I’m glad that your church was able to donate your kit to you. We could barely afford to purchase ours – the month was running out faster than the paycheck when we had to purchase our materials. I’ve seen some churches that will reimburse you for half of the kit after you’ve attended 8 of the 9 classes. I thought that was a neat idea – it means that the church is reinvesting in its members!
One of the most noticeable changes we made to have a more consistent budget is signing up for budget billing with our utility company. With this company, it means they averaged out the last 12 months and we pay the same amount every month and they reevaluate every year. I know that this is not for everybody, but if we pay attention to our usage and our bill, it will work in our favor. Living in the upper Midwest in January can be very expensive on the heat bill! And gas under $2 a gallon helps, too!
Stephanie says
I’m glad that things are getting to be more consistent. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again!
Mandy says
Budget meetings are so important! Any tips on getting the kids and babies to actually go to sleep so you can have the meeting? It seems like they have a radar for all kinds of planned evenings! 🙂
Stephanie says
Ha ha! I totally know what you mean about their radar! I would be a liar if I claimed to have the answer! 🙂